Meeting and getting to know someone new that you’re interested in can be exciting, but also nerve-wracking. When trying to make a good impression on a girl you’ve just met, there are some key things you can do that will help your chances of taking things to the next level.
Be Confident and Make Eye Contact
Confidence is an attractive quality in both men and women. When first interacting with a new girl, stand tall, smile and maintain eye contact (without staring intensely). This shows her you are comfortable with yourself and interested in connecting with her.
Maintaining strong eye contact (when appropriate) also helps create an intimate, trusting bond. But don’t overdo it – brief breaks create natural tension. Use your best judgment based on the setting and how well you know each other so far.
Listen More Than You Speak
When trying to impress someone new, there is often the temptation to brag about yourself to try to seem more interesting. However, one of the strongest ways to impress a girl is to simply listen to what she has to say.
Ask her open-ended questions about herself, her interests, opinions and goals. Listen intently to her answers without interrupting. Follow up to learn more and show you are engaged. This shows her you are genuinely interested in who she is as a person.
Find Common Ground
The beginning stages of getting to know someone new often involve searching for common interests, experiences, preferences, etc. Finding things you have in common helps create a sense of chemistry and connection.
For example, maybe you ask what kind of music or movies she likes, and you share some favorites. Or maybe you discover you both love to travel, or enjoy the same cuisine. Look for common ground, but also show interest in learning about her unique interests and perspectives.
Compliment Her Sincerely
Giving someone new a sincere, thoughtful compliment shows you appreciate them on deeper levels. The key is to make compliments personal and meaningful, not generic flattery.
For example, you could compliment her style if you genuinely admire it, or compliment a personality trait like her intelligence that shines through in conversation. Just be sure to keep compliments appropriate and tactful, especially when first getting to know someone.
Use Appropriate Humor
Having a sense of humor and making someone laugh is an excellent way to impress a new girl. Funny people are naturally likeable. The key is using humor that aligns with both of your tastes.
Read her body language and vibes to assess what types of jokes or humorous stories might land well. Self-deprecating humor can be charming if not overdone. Witty, observational humor tends to work better than slapstick early on. Gauge her reactions and adjust accordingly.
Give Sincere Praise
Complimenting her appearance or style is nice, but taking things up a notch by praising her personality, skills and achievements is even more impressive. For example, if she mentions pursuing acting, you could say “I really admire you for following your passion like that.”
Or if she achieves something like a work promotion or fitness goal, offer sincere praise. This shows you respect her accomplishments and see her impressive qualities clearly.
Ask Follow-Up Questions
Conversations often flow better when you ask follow-up questions to build on what’s already been said, rather than jumping randomly to new topics. Engage with her responses and show you are listening closely by asking thoughtful follow-up questions.
This also shows your interest in who she is. For example, if she mentions loving to travel, you could ask “Where’s the most interesting place you’ve been?” or “What’s your dream travel destination?”
Suggest A Unique Date Idea
If things are going well and you feel ready to hint at a date, suggest a creative, fun idea aligned with her interests. This shows thoughtfulness. For example, if she loves live music, suggest a concert by a band you both like. Or if she’s a foodie, propose trying a new ethnic restaurant neither of you have tried yet.
Tailoring date ideas specifically to her demonstrates how well you’ve listened and what you’ve learned about who she is as a person.
Gently Touch Her Arm
While you don’t want to be overly touchy with someone you just met, a gentle, intentional touch can demonstrate affection and interest. If you feel sparks between you, briefly touching her arm mid-conversation can punctuate a joke or express empathy.
Read her body language first and start slow with basic arm touches before progressing to more intimate touches to gauge mutual interest and comfort levels.
Mind Your Manners
Minding manners like saying “please” and “thank you,” opening doors, being respectful to wait staff, and not talking with your mouth full shows you were raised right. Good manners demonstrate you value other people and have consideration for those around you.
Letting etiquette slide, like frequently interrupting or being rude to servers, gives the impression you are self-centered or oblivious to social graces.
Avoid Bragging
It’s tempting to want to brag about your positive qualities, accomplishments, knowledge, travel experiences, etc when first getting to know someone attractive. But avoid this urge as it tends to backfire, making you appear arrogant and self-absorbed.
Let your good qualities shine through in natural conversation, and learn about who she is too. If relevant, briefly sharing modest highlights from your life is fine, but don’t dominate the conversation with boastful brags.
Dress Nicely
Putting some extra care into your grooming and wardrobe when you know you’ll be interacting with someone new demonstrates self-respect, maturity and attention to detail. Good hygiene and neatly styled hair also give an appealing sense of togetherness.
Wear flattering clothing in good condition – consider opting for button-down shirts, smart trousers or dark fitted jeans paired with nice shoes or boots. Avoid anything sloppy, wrinkled or unsuitable for the setting.
| Dos | Don’ts |
|---|---|
| Well-fitting clothes | Ill-fitting, baggy clothes |
| Neat, clean shoes | Scuffed shoes |
| Crisp shirt | Wrinkled shirt |
| Stylish jacket/blazer | Drab, old jacket |
Keep Your Phone Away
Having your phone out when interacting with someone new gives the impression you are bored, distracted or more interested in your device than her. Keep your phone tucked away to show you are fully present unless you need to exchange numbers.
Let calls go to voicemail and only check notifications if absolutely necessary. Returning texts immediately also looks overeager. Give her your full attention instead to leave a positive first impression.
Surprise Her With a Small Gift
Bringing a small, thoughtful gift on your first few interactions lets you stand out from other guys competing for her attention. The token itself is less important than the care behind choosing it – pick something personalized that shows you listened to what she likes.
For example, bring her specialty chocolate from her favorite brand, a book relevant to her interests, a mix CD of bands she loves, or a beautiful plant for her home.
Groom Yourself Immaculately
Putting extra care into your grooming when you know you’ll be interacting with someone attractive shows you value both her and yourself. Make sure you:
- Shower, shave/trim facial hair, use deodorant
- Style your hair neatly
- Brush + floss thoroughly
- Trim/clean nails
- Wear a light cologne/aftershave
This clean-cut, polished grooming helps her see you put effort into how you present yourself both hygienically and aesthetically.
Match Her Interest Level
Carefully match the level of interest she shows, avoiding coming on too strong or seeming aloof. If she seems very engaged, prolong the interaction. If she seems distracted or uncomfortable, politely disengage.
This balanced approach prevents scaring her off or wasting time pursuing disinterest. Let her reactions determine if/when to ask for her number, propose another meeting, etc.
Ask Questions and Avoid Assumptions
Ask questions to get to know her instead of making assumptions. For example, ask what she does for work instead of guessing her profession. Ask what she likes to do for fun instead of assuming her hobbies.
Making assumptions can come across as projecting versus genuinely getting to know someone. Ask thoughtful questions and listen without judgment to learn who she really is.
Conclusion
Making a positive first impression on a newly met girl involves balancing confidence with humility, boldness with tact, and expressing clear interest without over-pursuing. Focus on attentive listening, seeking common ground, minding manners and presenting your authentic best self.
With the right balance of friendliness, reciprocity and conscientiousness, you can give yourself the best chance at making an excellent first impression that could lead to many more meaningful interactions down the road.