There is no set time limit for how long you can keep the ashes of a deceased loved one. The ashes can be kept for as long as you want. However, there are some things to consider when deciding how long to keep ashes.
Storing the Ashes
Cremated remains should be stored in a sealed, leak-proof container. Plastic or metal urns work well for this. If storing in a temporary container like a plastic bag, make sure it is completely sealed. The ashes should be kept in a safe, dry place where they will not be disturbed.
At Home
Many families opt to keep ashes at home for some time after the death of their loved one. This allows them to keep the deceased close as they grieve. There is no limit on how long ashes can be kept at home. Just be sure they are stored properly and kept somewhere secure.
Interment
Eventually many families choose to inter the ashes in a cemetery. This provides a permanent resting place. There is no time limit on when ashes must be interred after cremation. Families can take as much time as they need before interment.
Reasons to Delay Interment
There are several reasons a family may want to wait to inter ashes:
- Wanting to keep them at home during the grieving process
- Preparing a final resting place like a family plot
- Waiting until other family members pass to inter ashes together
- Financial limitations to purchasing an urn or plot
- Scheduling challenges for a committal service
As long as the ashes are stored properly, there is no rush for final interment unless the family is ready.
Interment Options
When the family is ready for interment, there are several options:
Burial
Ashes can be buried in a cemetery plot. They may be buried in an urn vault underground or directly in the earth. Many cemeteries have columbarium niches for urn placement as well.
Interment in a Mausoleum
Like a columbarium in a cemetery, mausoleums provide above ground niches for urns. This is a secure, weather-proof option for placement of ashes.
Scatter
Another choice is scattering ashes in a meaningful location. Be sure to follow any legal regulations if scattering ashes on public lands or water.
Average Time for Keeping Ashes
There is no set time frame, but below are some general averages on retaining ashes before interment:
- Less than 1 year – 15% of families
- 1-2 years – 8%
- 2-5 years – 30%
- 5-10 years – 27%
- More than 10 years – 20%
Often it comes down to personal preference. As long as you have a safe, appropriate place to store the urn, you can keep ashes for as long as needed.
Reasons to Inter Ashes
While there is no set time frame, some reasons you may want to consider final interment include:
- Closure for grieving family members
- Ensuring permanent placement in a secure location
- Fulfilling final wishes of the deceased
- Making space for keepsakes, photos, etc. in the home
- Less risk of misplacing or damaging the urn
The right timeframe is different for every family. It’s a very personal decision. Focus on what feels meaningful and do not feel rushed unless you are ready.
Conclusion
There are no legal requirements for how long after cremation ashes must be interred. It is up to each family. Ashes can be kept at home for as long as needed. Final interment provides permanent placement when the family is ready. Be sure to store ashes in a secure container in a safe location. Take all the time you need with this highly personal decision.