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Can nurses be friends with former patients?

Quick answers to key questions:

– Can nurses ethically form friendships with former patients? It depends on the situation, but generally it is advised to avoid close personal relationships.

– What are the ethical concerns? Issues like power imbalances, confidentiality breaches, and impairment of professional judgement.

– Are there any exceptions? Casual friendships may be acceptable in some cases when sufficient time has passed. Nurse and patient relationships that predate the professional relationship may also be permitted.

– What do nursing codes of ethics say? Most prohibit relationships that risk compromising patient care and trust. Time limits after care may be imposed.

The nurse-patient relationship is considered sacred and built upon a foundation of trust. Nurses have an ethical duty to always act in the best interests of their patients and avoid any personal interests that could impair professional judgement. This means maintaining appropriate professional boundaries with patients.

So can nurses ethically become friends with their former patients? There are no black-and-white answers, and much depends on the situation. However, romantic or close personal relationships are almost always prohibited. The consensus is that nurses should err on the side of caution when it comes to relationships with former patients.

Ethical Concerns

There are several important ethical considerations when examining the issue of nurses being friends with former patients:

Power imbalances – The nurse-patient dynamic involves an inherent power imbalance, with the nurse having more authority in the relationship. This could carry over even after the professional relationship ends. A “friendship” in this scenario may be imbalanced.

Dual relationships – Combining professional and personal relationships can muddle boundaries. Dual relationships may compromise a nurse’s objectivity, judgement, and professional role.

Confidentiality – Nurses gain private knowledge about patients’ lives and health. Maintaining confidentiality is essential. Friendships risk inappropriate disclosures.

Trust and exploitation – Patients trust nurses because of their professional role. Friendships may breach that trust if motives are misinterpreted. There are risks of manipulation or exploitation.

Impaired judgement– Personal closeness may impact a nurse’s judgement, including if the patient returns to their care in the future. The patient’s interests should always come first.

Role confusion – Patients may have unrealistic expectations of friendship. The nurse’s ability to provide objective, therapeutic care may become confused.

These factors can undermine the fundamental obligations nurses have towards patients’ wellbeing and the professional nurse-patient relationship.

Are There Any Exceptions?

While intimate friendships are widely deemed off-limits, some more casual friendships may be ethically permissible in certain circumstances.

For instance, if a sufficient amount of time has passed since the end of the nurse-patient relationship (e.g. years later), the power differential has decreased and there is little to no risk of overlapping dual roles, casual friendships may sometimes be appropriate.

The exception often made is for relationships that predate the professional one – if nurse and patient already knew each other socially before the professional relationship was established. In these cases, care should still be taken to maintain boundaries and minimize conflicts of interest while the nurse-patient relationship exists.

It is safest for nurses to avoid social media connections with current or recent patients. But networking sites may be acceptable with former patients once a reasonable amount of time has passed.

While the Board of Nursing may impose strict time protocols (such as waiting 1-2 years post-care), there are no fixed rules about when enough time has truly passed, as each situation will differ. The minimum is usually considered to be after the patient has been discharged and care fully terminated.

What Do Nursing Codes of Ethics Say?

Most nursing codes of ethics worldwide prohibit nurses from having relationships with patients that risk undermining the patient’s dignity, trust and care. They acknowledge the inherent vulnerability and power imbalance within the nurse-patient relationship.

Some key principles stated:

– The American Nurses Association Code states nurses should not engage in relationships with patients that are likely to compromise the patient’s wellbeing. Time limits may be imposed after care provision ends before social relationships are permissible.

– The UK’s Nursing and Midwifery Council Code does not permit sexual relationships with current patients or those “close to them.” Personal relationships are avoided for 2 years after care ends.

– The Canadian Nurses Association Code does not allow “professional relationships” to be compromised by personal interests and relationships. Nurse-patient relationships cease after the professional care ends.

– The International Council of Nurses Code states that after the professional relationship ends, nurses should refrain from entering improper relationships that could appear to be exploitive in nature.

– The Australian Nursing and Midwifery Board Code prohibits any relationships that risk losing objectivity or compromising patient trust. A minimum time period may be mandated before friendships can form.

So while comprehensive prohibitions against friendships are not explicitly stated, most codes advise avoiding relationships that could undermine professional values, trust and care. Strict time limits may be imposed between the end of care and social relationships beginning.

Guidance for Nurses

– Reflect carefully on your motivations and ethical obligations. Do not rush social relationships.

– Maintain professional boundaries while care is ongoing. Do not exchange personal contact details or connect on social media.

– Allow sufficient time to pass after discharge/termination of care before considering casual friendship.

– Seek advice from professional boards/unions about time limits and other guidance.

– If a pre-existing relationship exists, be transparent with managers about boundaries and proactively address any conflicts.

– Do not share any private patient details or breach confidentiality even after care ends.

– Avoid dual relationships that may risk your judgement or professional activities.

– Document any disclosures or permissions related to social relationships after care.

– Consider the power dynamics and vulnerability of patients. Do not engage in relationships that may be perceived as exploitative or inappropriate.

– Disclose any potential conflicts of interest that arise. Your professional role must be the priority.

– Use your best professional judgement to act in the interests of patients. Protect public trust in the nursing profession.

Dealing with Patient Requests

Patients sometimes express interest in forming friendships or keeping in touch outside of a professional capacity. How should nurses diplomatically handle this?

– Politely explain that professional ethics preclude close friendships forming at this time.

– Say you hope they understand it is to maintain professional boundaries and the nurse-patient relationship.

– Acknowledge it is flattering if they feel you have bonded.

– Recommend alternative professional referrals/contacts for any ongoing support needs.

– If permitted, you can promise to keep them updated in general terms on a professional basis while care continues.

– For post-care contact requests, explain organizational policies may impose time restrictions, but you can review the position later on if appropriate.

– Emphasize you must always prioritize professional ethics and their care. But thank them for any positive feedback.

– Document the patient’s request and your response. Have a manager counter-sign if concerned.

– If requests persist beyond reasonable limits, specialist advice may be required. Set clear expectations.

The therapeutic relationship is the priority. With sensitivity and care, nurses can protect professional boundaries when maintaining friendships does not appear appropriate. Expert guidance can assist with managing any complex situations or concerns.


Can nurses be friends with former patients? While mutual attraction or bonding during care are understandable, acting on this by initiating close friendships or relationships is rarely ethically advisable.

However, following sufficient time post-care, casual friendships may sometimes be unobjectionable if power imbalances have subsided and overlapping roles prevented. Pre-existing relationships may also continue with boundaries.

Nurses are trusted because of their professional role. Preserving that trust means putting patient interests first and maintaining the boundary between therapeutic and personal relationships – or at minimum observing time restrictions required by nursing codes of ethics.

Yet with rising complexity in modern healthcare, there are few blanket rules that cover all situations. The most important thing is that nurses reflect carefully and act in good faith to uphold their duty of care. If in any doubt, professional advice should be sought.

By avoiding friendships where there is real potential for blurred lines, conflict of interest, power imbalances or breach of trust, nurses can protect the integrity of the vital relationships they share with patients.