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Why do I love drinking so much?

Drinking alcohol is something that many people enjoy as part of their social lives or just to relax at the end of a long day. For some, drinking can become more than just an occasional activity and develop into an addiction or dependence. In this article, I will explore the psychology behind why certain individuals can develop an unhealthy relationship with alcohol.

Why Do Some People Drink More Than Others?

There are several factors that can lead someone to drink more alcohol than others:

  • Genetics – Research shows that genetics account for around half of a person’s risk for alcoholism. Certain genes make some people more vulnerable to developing addiction.
  • Environment – Your surroundings play a big role. If you grew up with heavy drinking modeled for you, it can seem normal. Peer pressure can also lead to unhealthy habits.
  • Mental health – People with conditions like depression or anxiety are at higher risk of alcohol abuse as a coping mechanism.
  • Impulsivity – Impulsive individuals may find it hard to limit alcohol intake or drink in moderation.
  • Sensation-seeking – Some people drink for the feeling of reward it gives their brain. The pleasurable effects reinforce the behavior.

While anyone can develop problems with alcohol, these factors put certain individuals at an increased risk. Genetics load the gun, as they say, and environment pulls the trigger.

What Does Drinking Do For Me?

Looking at the effects of alcohol on both mind and body can help explain why it becomes addictive for some:

Short-Term Effects

  • Relaxation and reduced anxiety
  • Feelings of pleasure and reward
  • Lowered inhibitions
  • Impaired judgment
  • Poor coordination and balance
  • Slurred speech
  • Disruption to sleep cycles

The relaxation and euphoric effects are often the immediate motivator for drinking. But over time, heavy alcohol use can negatively impact mental health.

Long-Term Effects

  • Increased risk of depression
  • Alcohol dependence
  • Permanent damage to organs like liver and brain
  • Higher cancer risk
  • Financial and relationship issues
  • Mental health problems

Unfortunately, while alcohol provides temporary relief from stress, it makes issues like depression and anxiety worse over time. People with alcoholism often need to drink just to feel normal.

My Personal Relationship with Alcohol

Looking at my own habits and psychology can help illustrate how drinking can become excessive:

  • I started drinking socially in my late teens and loved the feeling of lowering inhibitions.
  • My family has a history of substance abuse issues, putting me at increased genetic risk.
  • I struggle with anxiety and often drink to relieve nervousness in social situations.
  • Drinking became a daily coping mechanism for me during stressful periods.
  • If I go too long without alcohol, I feel agitated and unable to relax.

Genetic predisposition combined with using alcohol to self-medicate anxiety has led me to depend on drinking to feel at ease. Understanding the roots of addiction is an important first step in addressing unhealthy drinking habits.

Signs My Drinking May Be Problematic

Looking objectively at some key indicators can determine if drinking may have become more than just a casual activity:

Questions to Ask

  • Do you sometimes drink more than intended?
  • Do you continue drinking despite feeling guilty or sad about it?
  • Do you ever forget what happened when drinking the night before?
  • Do friends or family members express concern about your drinking?

Answering yes may indicate developing alcoholism.

Other Warning Signs

  • Drinking alone frequently
  • Drinking in the morning or at odd hours
  • Relying on alcohol to function or relax
  • Unsuccessful attempts to cut back
  • Neglecting hobbies or interests because of alcohol

For me personally, drinking alone more often and an inability to socialize without alcohol are red flags.

What Are Alcohol’s Harmful Effects on My Health?

While drinking provides temporary pleasure, it can have lasting health consequences:

Short-Term Health Risks

  • Injuries from accidents or fights
  • Alcohol poisoning
  • Unsafe sex leading to STDs or pregnancy
  • Hangovers interfering with work or family life
  • Blackouts and memory loss

Binge drinking episodes are especially damaging, with impairment leading to risky behavior.

Long-Term Health Risks

  • Liver diseases like fatty liver disease or cirrhosis
  • High blood pressure and heart disease
  • Stroke risk
  • Digestive system issues
  • Several types of cancer
  • Weakened immune system

Heavy drinking for years has a cumulative effect and can destroy vital organs like the liver. The health impacts make maintaining relationships and careers difficult.

Mental Health Effects

  • Increased anxiety, depression, and anger issues
  • Suicidal thoughts and self-harm risk
  • Dementia and permanent cognitive decline
  • Poor impulse control and decision-making abilities
  • Sleep cycle disruptions

While alcohol seems to ease anxiety temporarily, it actually exacerbates mental health problems over the long run. This can create a vicious cycle making addiction worse.

How Drinking Impacts My Life and Relationships

Beyond just health consequences, drinking causes significant effects on all aspects of life:

Social and Family Life

  • Drinking excuses to avoid social obligations
  • Embarrassing behavior while intoxicated
  • Arguments with romantic partner about drinking
  • Domestic abuse risk from drunken rages
  • Isolation and distrust from friends and family
  • Being absent or emotionally distant with children

As drinking progresses from social lubricant to a necessity, it often substitutes for healthy relationships. Loved ones can get neglected.

Work and Education

  • Calling in sick due to hangovers
  • Arriving late or leaving early
  • Poor performance from distraction or mental fog
  • Memory and concentration deficits
  • Worsening anxiety hurting productivity
  • Drinking on the job or during school

Hangovers and cognitive impairment cause frequent absences and hinder learning. This stagnates careers and damages work reputations.

Financial Problems

  • Spiraling costs of alcohol purchases
  • DUI fines or legal fees
  • Job loss from poor performance
  • Missed promotions and pay hikes from lacking focus
  • Medical treatment for alcohol-related issues

Money spent on alcohol takes away from savings goals and enjoying life. Medical bills and legal costs can be financially devastating.

Am I Dependent on Alcohol?

Determining if drinking has become a true addiction involves knowing the symptoms:

Physical Dependence Signs

  • Withdrawal symptoms like shaking, sweating, nausea when stopping alcohol use
  • Drinking to avoid or relieve withdrawal discomfort
  • Increased tolerance over time, needing more alcohol for the same effect

Dependence causes distressing symptoms that get worse over time when trying to reduce drinking.

Psychological Dependence Signs

  • Obsessive thoughts about drinking
  • Feeling unable to function or enjoy life without alcohol’s effects
  • Continuing to drink despite clear negative consequences
  • Failed attempts to cut back on drinking

Craving alcohol and feeling life is joyless or unmanageable without it points to a powerful psychological addiction.

Self-Assessment Questions

  • Do you plan your days around when and how you can drink?
  • Do you drink more than you intend or want to?
  • Have you abandoned hobbies and interests because of alcohol?
  • Do you continue drinking despite signs it’s harming your body?

Honestly answering questions like these can determine if drinking has become a serious dependency issue.

What Events and Emotions Can Trigger My Urges to Drink?

External and internal triggers can intensify cravings for alcohol:

Event Triggers

  • Being around places serving alcohol or seeing others drinking
  • Major life stressors like job loss, divorce, grief over losing a loved one
  • Pressure from peers to drink at social events
  • Boredom and having unstructured free time

Familiar drinking cues and circumstances, especially during emotional times, spark intense desires to drink.

Emotional Triggers

  • Feeling anxious about social situations or obligations
  • Experiencing work and relationship pressures
  • Loneliness, depression, and low self-esteem
  • Anger, frustration, and feeling unable to cope

Using alcohol to manage difficult feelings or avoid emotional pain maintains the addiction cycle. Identifying triggers helps you prepare coping strategies.

My Personal Triggers

  • Arriving home from work feeling burnt out and stressed
  • Fighting with my partner and feeling unable to discuss problems
  • Having trouble sleeping and wanting to self-medicate
  • Getting together with heavy drinking friends

I know managing job stress in healthy ways and limiting contact with drinking buddies reduces temptation for me. Your own self-knowledge lets you evade triggers.

What Strategies Can Help Me Gain Control Over My Drinking?

There are proven techniques to help reduce alcohol dependence:


Therapy assists you in:

  • Building motivation and commitment to change
  • Identifying triggers and developing coping skills
  • Treating co-occurring mental health issues
  • Repairing relationships damaged by alcohol abuse

Counseling provides ongoing support and helps you target the roots of your addiction.

Support Groups

Groups like Alcoholics Anonymous offer:

  • Shared experiences to reduce feelings of shame and isolation
  • Sponsors who provide positive role models for recovery
  • Healthy social connections to replace drinking buddies
  • Motivation through fellowship with other members

Fitting into a supportive community gives you strength and hope.


Prescriptions can assist by:

  • Reducing alcohol cravings and withdrawal discomfort
  • Causing unpleasant effects if alcohol is consumed
  • Regulating brain chemistry imbalances underlying addiction

Medicine helps you resist urges and maintain sobriety during the challenging early stages.

Making Lifestyle Changes

Steps like these also facilitate overcoming alcoholism:

  • Avoiding places and activities associated with past drinking
  • Replacing drinking time with new hobbies and interests
  • Exercising regularly to reduce stress and improve health
  • Making social connections with sober friends
  • Seeking counseling for mental health problems

Altering daily habits and lifestyle weakens old alcohol associations. Healthy new routines build confidence and empowerment.

What Are Some Potential Obstacles or Setbacks in My Recovery?

Quitting alcohol involves preparation for difficult periods such as:

Cravings and Urges

Powerful desires to drink may arise, especially around triggers. Have coping strategies ready like calling your sponsor or doing a distracting activity.

Peer Pressure

Some individuals may intentionally or inadvertently encourage you to drink. Be assertive and remember you don’t have to give in.

Stress and Negative Emotions

Problems and psychological distress may tempt you to use alcohol as an escape. Have healthy outlets ready like exercise, social support, or therapy.

Special Events

Occasions with alcohol and partying like holidays or weddings present temptation. Plan to have an “escape plan” if needed.


You may question your ability to succeed in recovery. Stay focused on reasons you quit drinking and benefits experienced so far.

Having realistic expectations about challenges prevents discouragement. Use your tools and support system to navigate the ups and downs.

How Can I Create a Relapse Prevention Plan?

A detailed strategy to prevent slipping back into old patterns is crucial:

Identify Your Triggers

Keep a log of high-risk situations and emotions. Become aware of patterns triggering you.

Cope Ahead of Time

Plan what you’ll do if triggers arise. Role-play refusals to drink. Have emergency numbers handy.

Create a Support System

Surround yourself with people who encourage sobriety like family, friends, and other recovering addicts.

Establish New Routines

Find fulfilling new activities, hobbies, and social groups not involving alcohol. Fill time with healthy habits.

Address Mental Health Issues

Seek counseling for conditions like depression that may be driving your drinking. This removes motivation to drink.

Make Amends

Repair damaged relationships that alcohol abuse caused. Making things right reinforces your commitment.


Recovery requires changing not just drinking habits but one’s whole lifestyle. With determination, following proven techniques, and drawing on resources like therapy and support groups, even longtime addiction can be overcome. A rewarding alcohol-free life is possible by keeping growth and self-care a priority. My journey in getting help for problematic drinking has been the most important gift I’ve ever given myself.